Keep relationships away from the fire.

     
 

23 October 2008| 2 Comments

 

People say it about relationships all the time and it seems to stay true. NEVER BURN BRIDGES. I have a tendency to want to pull out the gasoline and burn bridges down! To just torch relationships as soon as they don’t bring forth certain fruit that I am expecting. It has nothing to do with the individuals, just with me. Typically this occurs when I am not living up to the knowledge and ideas I am aware of. I get frustrated by people who ask me for advice and then do not apply it in their lives (The reason I get so frustrated is because I do the exact same thing).
In the last month or so I have had many relationships come full circle. By this I mean that people who I may not have spent much time with before the last month have come flooding back into my life. It has been powerful, quite a few people for many different reasons. They all seem like new relationships because they are much clearer now, and much of the conversation is different from before when we were friends.
Some have come back because we just ran into each other, some because they have been thinking differently, some because I have been thinking differently. A few have come back because I have wanted to involve them for sometime. It is one of those weird things that happens where you notice a big difference in your life and it keeps happening. Kind of like when you see a new car that you like and now you cannot miss one on the road, and you never noticed them before but now you can’t not notice them.
The moral of the story, I guess, is keep all relationships away from the fire. Yes some people may do dumb stuff to us, take advantage, or whatever, but the key is to never burn a bridge. We may need to distance ourselves from them for a while but never burn it down. For me many times I think I have to burn things down but I tend to drift away from people. It is a natural process to drift in and out of friendship with people. I look forward to who I will run into tomorrow. Life is great. People are the only truly valuable things in our lives.

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    J.R. Farr says,

     

    Good post man. This really is such a tough line to walk. Keeping that balance between completely ruining a relationship and salvaging a relationship is very difficult.

    I think the main point is to at least be aware of your relationships and really focus on what the future outlook is rather then “now.”

    I think we’ve all done it though. You’ve burned a bridge, or wounded a relationship. Sometimes you have to make a choice and if your true intentions were for the greater good then things will work themselves out.

    I’m a true believer that the relationships you create now, will stay with you for a lifetime, so maintaining them will make your life a lot easier down the road.

    Again great post, it’s a good reminder.

     

    on October 25, 2008

     
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    Aaron says,

     

    Jrazzle our relationship is one of those that has come full circle in the last little bit. The bridge was never burned down but the bridge was old and rickety and well, you know, we had to rebuild it. Thanks for the comment. Over and out.

     

    on October 27, 2008

     

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