My blog is a great example of what I call ‘Perfectionist Tendencies’. I used to display these tendencies a lot more when I was younger, what I would do is start something with the idea that I was going to do it perfectly. I would envision this immaculate undertaking, with the end product being amazing. Every part of it, the brainstorm at the beginning, the tasking involved, the perfect presentation when completed. So what would happen is I would start thinking of the way I would do it. Get a clear image in my mind of what amazing thing I was going to do and then start doing the amazing thing by planning on starting ‘construction’ tomorrow. Tomorrow would come and I would reschedule it to the next day. Then I would stay in this procrastinative planning mode until the due date, the day of reckoning. After about the third day of ‘rescheduling’ the task grew huge in my mind and it would then seem like it would take a lot of effort to do what I originally intended to do. I thought I had conquered this tendency of mine until I started this blog.For a month or so I did very good. In my mind I saw myself writing everyday and having really useful things to say. Well I missed a few days and then it seemed overwhelming to sit and write a few days at once so I would schedule writing a weeks worth at one time and then never start doing it because it seemed daunting. Well I am recommitting to writing regularly but I will not beat myself up if its not every day. I tend to make a job out of things I love and then it sucks. This is fun for me, I choose for it to stay that way. The contradiction with ‘Perfectionist Tendencies’ is that time is wasted waiting to do something perfectly and usually nothing gets done. Anyone else find themselves with ‘Perfectionist Tendencies’?
Randy Moore says,
Aaron,
I share this “disability” of perfectionist tendencies and I didn’t even understand how I was letting that quest/drive for flawlessness cripple my ability to learn and develop until I read your post here. The other ‘lightbulb’ moment that stemmed from this is that I’m allwoing myself to be affected by this in more than just little projects or hobbies, I’m allowing it to be my excuse to keep me from doing some of the things that I know will bring me true happiness and freedom.
“I tend to make a job out of things I love and then it sucks. This is fun for me, I choose for it to stay that way.” That statement alone displays a level of self-mastery that I really admire. Keep it up! I’ll be watching(reading)…
on August 1, 2008